“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9
Three years ago I said “I do” to the man of my dreams. Three years! Time flies when you’re having fun right? To backtrack for anyone who is new here, Marcus and I dated in college and our senior year he proposed. We got married the following year in 2013 and of course we were young but being young and married has its benefits. I’m often told “you look so young to be married” what does that even mean? Do you have to be old to be married? Everyone has their own rights to think however they please but what works for you may not work for the next person. Since, we were friends and dated in college we already knew most of each others pet peeves, habits, etc.
In my opinion, being married young, you still have time to change habits and things that don’t work for your relationship. When you’re “old” you’re stuck in your ways and you’re not trying to negotiate with anyone. Since the three years have gone by, we’ve grown together, matured together, laughed together, and of course getting these coins together. haha But seriously, the growth we’ve both achieved during this timeframe is amazing. I pray for my husband everyday and I know he does the same for me and keeping God as the forefront of our relationship keeps everything going.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares The Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6
You never know what you’re going to face each day but God already has it written out. By year 3 of marriage, we had already planned to start our family amongst other things, but with all of the planning we quickly forgot that our plans don’t matter. Year 2 of marriage we found out we were expecting our first child and just as he gives he takes away. We lost our first child and no medical reason why, we know that God already had this planned. There is no reason to give because we don’t question his work.
This battle could of took our marriage downhill especially with the emotions I was dealing with but Marcus being the godly man that he is was by my side praying with me, for me, and staying strong through everything. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers and this is something that has tripled the strength of our marriage and our love for each other even more. When you think there isn’t anything else to learn or know about a person, things like this happen and it brings you closer than you’ve ever been. In our marriage, we’ve always been close but this experience was a different kind of close and going into year 3, we’re spiritually, physically, and emotionally ready for everything God has planned for us. We know we’ll have our family one day but on Gods terms. In the meantime, we’re going to continue to grow and love each other day in and day out. God couldn’t of given me a better man than Marcus, he’s truly my soulmate.
Now, if you recall a few weeks ago, I wrote a post on fun relationship exercise q&a. Marcus answered his here, and now it’s my turn.
Q: What is your favorite memory of us together?
A: Our wedding day 🙂 oh and also fun fact to the readers: we went to the same daycare! crazy right lol so my childhood memory would be you giving me all your candy lmao (totally made that up, he was probably mean to me lol)
Q: What do you think is the greatest strength in our marriage?
A: That we both are always reaching for the top. We never settle or take no for anything and we crush goals like a hammer lmao.
Q: What would you like us to do together that we’ve never done before?
A: Snorkeling. We’ve done it separately when we both were younger but I want to do it together.
Q: Where do you think we’ll be five years from now?
A: Raising our beautiful children and traveling ten times more
Q: What is your favorite quality about me?
A: Your thoughtfulness. You always make sure I am okay before yourself. You have a big heart even for strangers and I love that about you. You literally have no hate for anyone.
Q: What song makes you think of me?
A: Twentyyyy Onee (inside joke lmao)
Q: How have you seen me change since we’ve been married?
A: You’re definitely more open to seeing others opinions now lol and the way you motivate me is amazing.
Happy Anniversary bae (lol and I love you! muah!